Save the Date

I was going to say that I recently got a wedding invitation in the mail that said "Save the Date" to make this post relevant, but it's not true.
The thought came to me about "Save the Date" and the whole concept seems funny to me.
My roommates in Seattle would get those invitations and they would be on our fridge for what seemed like (and probably was) years.
When people send a wedding invitation requesting people to "save the date", they are asking people what they're doing Friday night in 2020.

"Will we still be friends by then?"

A lot can happen in a 8 years. People move, have kids, have financial crises and maybe even die. There could even be a 'save the date' in between someone else's 'save the date'.

Are you in denial of your own engagement? "Let's just get engaged, set a date for 5 years in the future and see what happens. Maybe if we tell our friends about it, then maybe it will make us want it more."

I support the idea of a long courtship and a short engagement. People don't really like going to weddings anyway so by asking them to reserve some date in the distant future, it causes them some committment anxiety - because they know that you know that you don't know what you're doing June 12, 2020. By technically not having any set plans on that date, you automatically feel obligated to go.

So, be kind and practical. The date is June 12, 2012. Be there or be square.

Update - I've changed my mind

Hello blog readers! That would be just me...and family members and friends who kindly read out of support or boredom.
It's been a while since my last update. I tend to go through moments where I'm really excited about a particular activity - like blogging. Then I crash and burn a few months later. "It's too much work" or "I don't feel like it." Well, today I feel like it. I'm turning over a new leaf. I listened to Elder Holland's conference talk from this last conference and it instantly changed my perspective on life. In a world of competition and envy, we are at times blinded and don't recognize what we already have. We get jealous of other people's fortunes and blessings that we neglect our own. I discovered that there comes a time when being kind and loving other people (despite what you think you lack and they so undeservedly have) is so much easier than holding on to anger, bitterness and resentment. It allows you to more fully enjoy your life and look forward to the blessings awaiting you. I have been extremely uplifted ever since.

I've changed my mind on a few of the topics I've addressed in my previous blogs.

First, Online Dating. I'll stick to one thing positive and that is that I don't regret trying it. However, I will never do it again. More bad experiences came from dating computer profiles than good. I would say that about 80 percent of the people on there are pretty odd. The common problem is people's inability to communicate well face to face. A lot of the people who date online just lack some of the most basic social skills. That's pretty big when it comes to dating. I am officially done with it and therefore, I no longer date. Haha. That's the draw back. People may be weird, but they do ask you out. I guess it's back to juggling bowling pins in a coconut bra to get noticed.

Second, Facebook. This has not changed actually. I have enjoyed the long abscence of useless updates. I don't think I will ever go back. However, I did join Twitter. I did this for work purposes. I felt I needed to be more updated on what's going in the world. It's kind of important for the field I'm in.

Well, that's it.